Last weekend was my wedding anniversary. It has been 12 years. Wow. As we all know, time flies. I am lucky I have such a great husband and such a great, sometimes stranger-than-fiction life with him.
I think it all started with our first dance at our wedding…or maybe before. We did live together a few years before that. Me, not intending to marry. He, thinking it was the right thing to do. It just did not seem right to refuse his proposal when I had already moved across the world with him and we had been shackin’ up for the previous two years.
I wanted the short and sweet wedding. He wanted a “Big Texas Wedding”. Knowing that planning a wedding abroad would be insane in a country where you have to reserve everything at least one year in advance; and in an attempt to con our friends into visiting one of the coolest places on earth, we agreed to have the BIG party in Istanbul. This was actually in July, the summer after we were legally married in September, but that’s another story.
In retrospect, it was a great celebration and I am glad we did it. We were also so pleased that 30 or so guests travelled to join us. It was a week of a wedding - so much that I had no voice at vow time.
We chose a great song for our first dance. What a Wonderful World. When we met the dj and he inquired about our preferred version, we told him we were okay with either. After all, such a beautiful song would be great in any arrangement. Right?
Come show time the music began…. “Don’t know much about history… Don’t know much biology…” WTH?! Where were our “trees of green” and “red roses too?” At that moment, we learned there were two songs with this name. While we anticipated the Louis Armstrong version, or at least that song and lyrics, we ended up with the 1958 Sam Cooke song by the same name! A song about a guy trying to win the love of a girl! A moment that I am quite sure we passed long before our wedding.
|Our first dance|
One of my bridesmaids who knew what the song was supposed to be leaned over to me and whispered “That’s what makes it memorable”. Not wanting to make a scene, we rolled with it - or should I say Sarper encouraged me to keep dancing. So, just as we have two wedding anniversaries, we have two wedding songs. Well, sort of.
Fast track 12 years later. Last week I started a local photography class. Session One: drive into the desert to shoot night and sunrise images. I had not met the instructor before, but he was the only local photographer I could find offering more than a beginner class. He calls me the day before to see if I am ready to go. Eagerly hoping to meet more people into photography I ask “How many other students?”. None. Just me.
I am scheduled to meet a stranger at 1:00am and get in his car and drive into the desert with him for photography. I am sure the guy is legit, and nice (and he is), but where I grew up you just don’t typically get in the car with strangers and if you do, you do not want to drive into the middle of nowhere. When I learn this, I ask my husband if he would mind coming. Without thinking twice about it, he is on board.
That night, after a local charity dinner, we run home to throw on something more appropriate for camping and head out to our agreed meeting place. The instructor arrives late. Unbeknown to us, his car is having some problems, so he asks if we can drive. Of course we can.
Which direction? Take the Al Ain road. After about 30 or so minutes into the desert, my husband asks which exit he should take. Keep going straight, we are going to Al Ain. What??!! Al Ain is a two hour drive from Dubai, near the Oman border.
It is beautiful and known for Jebel Hafeet, a mountain that is perfect to watch the sunrise. Apparently this was a minor detail that was left out of the class agenda.
We arrive around 3:30am or so and my class began. Sarper proceeded to roll out the yoga mat and take a nap. The class and sunrise were great, but I did not sleep at all. Sarper slept on the hard ground for only about two hours and then as soon as the sun was up, we proceeded to head back to Dubai because we had a full day ahead.
It was definitely not the night we expected, and our guy friends who have heard this story have all confirmed my husband must be crazy as there is absolutely no way they would do such a thing for their wives.
So thank you canim for being such a trooper. I am forever grateful for your never-ending love and support. How we find ourselves in these crazy situations I will never know, but I guess that is just what makes it memorable.
|Sunrise at Jebel Hafeet, Al Ain|